Have you ever found yourself comparing your life to others? Or comparing who you are to who other people are?
I know I do. I struggle with comparison every day. It's not easy to see yourself the way you are and compare it to how other people are living their lives. I always have to tell myself that everyone is struggling with something and that what they post on their Social Media accounts is not always real.
Comparison is poisonous. The more you do it, the harder it is to heal from its negative consequences. I would know because I grew up around it.
My parents, my mom especially, would always compare me to other people's daughters. She would constantly talk to me about what they have achieved and what they are currently doing. As I was growing up, it was hard to hear that. Even as an adult, it's still hard because it makes you wonder why you're not good enough to do the things that they are doing.
I've become accustomed to listening to my mom talk about people's accomplishments. As an adult, I realized that she wasn't trying to compare me even though I was interpreting it that way. She was trying to tell me that she expects great things from me, but she didn't say those exact words.
Learn to recognize your patterns when you compare yourself to others. It's never easy to stop because it's become a bad habit. But you have to stop. You have to stop comparing yourself to others and recognize that what you have to offer is just as special as everyone else.
Everyone has different lives, values, and journeys that they are going through. They're all focused on who they want to become, what they want to achieve, and how they're going to achieve it. They're in their own lane.
To stop comparing yourself, you start by staying in your own lane. You need to narrow your focus. You need to be selfish. Not with just yourself but also with your time and energy. Be selective of who you choose to spend your time with because time is valuable. Be knowledgeable about who you want to spend your energy on because not everyone deserves to be around you.
Staying in your lane means you are too focused on yourself and your journey to care about what other people think of you. You are in your lane and you have to stop thinking about what everyone else is doing because honey, you are swerving into their lane and that's not good.
So, how do you stay in your lane? Firstly, ask yourself: What do you want out of life? What goals and dreams do you wish to accomplish? Why do you want to accomplish those things? How are you going to do it?
Once you know what you truly want out of life, you will never compare your journey in life to someone else's. It will work only if you want it bad enough. Your desire to achieve your goals needs to be strong. Only then will you find yourself staying in your lane. Only then will you find happiness with the path you are on.
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